dear fabulous ladies,
i was reading an article in the daily mail (srsly, i love that newspaper, our celeb gossip is nothing compared to their royalty gossip. harry and chelsy- woot! woot!) and it was discussing how basically more and more women
"...think the universe resolves around us, with a deluded sense of our own fabulousness, and believe we are cleverer, more talented and more attractive than we actually are." (HoLLa!!)
oh wait, i think that is a bad thing......anyways, it got me thinking. i know a small number of teachers, and they are always complaining that each year more and more children are becoming more spoiled, or selfish or having a sense of entitlement. i guess i always attributed it to the usual suspects: busy parents, trying to buy kids' love with presents, the whole "self esteem" movement and of course, the jonas brothers.
but maybe it is not just the kids who are suffering from entitlement. in what they are calling the "sex and the city" generation ( i love researchers and scientists. it's like they are 10 years behind on cool.) a larger group of women are displaying a false sense of "fetch-ness" (let me save you time, it is not something you can attain, it's just something you are)
a recent magazine asked four women in their 20s and 30s, why they think they are still single:
A 39 year old beauty director claimed to be too independent for a relationship.
A 38 year old music agent attributed her single status to the fact she was an alpha female-independent, feisty, strong minded, high achieving and intimidating
The third woman, a 30 year old arts writer and curator, has been having too much fun to settle down
Another 29 year old, she was too picky
"he needs to be successful, solvent, and driven. He must also be long on genuinely good jokes with a decent sideline in bad ones that only she finds funny.
he needs to 'speak good restaurant', to have no special dietary requirements and to always be discerning without ever being fussy.
He needs to be clever without ever making her feel stupid. He needs to 'get' but not 'know' fashion"
are you kidding me? if you are "too independent" for a relationship, then why are you looking for one? and that last one? you're looking for a dude, right? k, just making sure. so who is to blame for this excessive fabulous-ness? the internet, (poor world wide webs, it gets blamed for everything) reality tv and easy credit. so, not the people themselves. nice